Toxic Masculinity

The human race is basically an old married couple. Men collectively are the husband, women collectively are the wife. We fuss, we fight, we argue usually about the same things over and over again. But in this particular marriage, divorce is not an option. The term toxic masculinity is one of those hurtful, manipulative, boundary pushing, gaslighting things that women say in an argument because she can't actually identify what's making her unhappy.

And she can't identify what's making her unhappy because she is making her unhappy and all women live in their own blind spot. This actually just shows you how dependent women are on men intrinsically. Their first instinct in any and every scenario is to look to us as the source of all of their problems and as the ones who are expected to solve them. I mean, have you ever noticed that there's a whole sort of subgenre in pop music that you could call survivor songs? Songs about surviving the trials and tribulations of life, getting stronger, and becoming the hero of your own story because you triumphed over adversity.

In the male versions of these songs, they're generally about the normal hardships of life, how society has beaten them down and it's them against the world. In female versions of these songs, they're always about their ex. They are our companions in this world, but to them, we are their world. So while we might say, the world is corrupt, they say toxic masculinity. Women have never been unhappier than they are today.

That's largely because of their own choices in lifestyle. But, of course, naturally, the more unhappy women are, the more men will be depicted as villains. What has happened over the last hundred years or so is that more and more women have left the domestic sphere and joined the workforce, which is men's territory, and it's rough terrain. For obvious reasons, women are finding it hard to cope, and therefore they want men to smooth out the landscape and make the outside world more like the domestic sphere, an environment they are used to. So now every man is supposed to treat every woman with the same deference, low expectations, and patience as a husband.

The world, meaning men, is supposed to conform to what women can endure and cope with. Masculinity did not become toxic until women started trying to compete with men in the masculine sphere. And the problem can't possibly be their incapability. That's unthinkable. Women want to be loved.

They want to be catered to. They want to be taken care of and sheltered. But they have moved out of the sphere in which that is a reasonable expectation into a world where it doesn't work. That's what's behind the creation of the term toxic masculinity. Now that's not to say that some men aren't jerks.

There are plenty of those, but that's precisely why the outside world is men's domain because we are capable of dealing with them.