Here's to the Little Guy

I wanted to talk about and to all the men out there who don't possess or exhibit the stereotypical traits associated with masculinity. All the little guys, the short guys, the physically small guys, the men with delicate features who maybe can't build muscle easily or can't grow facial hair or who maybe even have effeminate mannerisms or personalities, but who are men just as much as any other man is. Red Pillars and Tomasin will tell you that you were just dealt a bad hand in this life, and the nature of the game is such that you just have to deal with being less than. Maybe what you could do is go to the gym and try and bulk up or dedicate your life to making as much money as possible because that's the only way that you could ever possibly compete with tall, big, muscular guys for the attention of women. Well, this is utter nonsense and you're the best people to prove that it is nonsense.

First of all, let me say that one of the greatest assets you can have in this life is to be underestimated, and one of the worst liabilities you can have in this life is overconfidence. The kind of confidence that comes from having an assumption of imagined advantage. Let me explain it this way. Teddy Atlas, former trainer of Mike Tyson said that Tyson was not a great fighter because he was so naturally superior to every boxer that he ever fought that he never had to dig down deep in order to overcome an opponent who was better than him or even with whom he was evenly matched. And when Tyson did encounter an opponent with a comparable skill set like Evander Holyfield, he couldn't manage it.

Well, that's like the overconfidence of the men who possess the classic traits of superficial masculinity. The tall guys, the big guys, the loud guys, the aggressive boisterous guys. They're used to winning without ever having to dig down deep to find out what they're truly made of. And very often, they're not made of much. And if they encounter a man who is bigger than them, taller than them, more aggressive than them, louder than them, you'll see them cower because they've lived their whole life believing that the source of their power and advantage was their size, their loudness, their aggressiveness, and so on.

Well, if you're a little guy in this world, you don't have that indulgence. Everybody's bigger than you, taller than you, louder than you, more formidable than you. So what difference does it make to you if a man is six foot tall or six foot six? He's just another big guy. You have had to contend with bigger guys all your life.

The confidence you build, you build from within, not from superficial imaginary advantages. That gives you an edge over everybody else. Now depending on how old you are, you may still be going through that process of building your confidence, and it may seem like a trial by fire sometimes. But trust me, when you come out the other end, you're gonna be stronger than the other guys. Now red pillows and Tomaszine promote the idea that women don't want shorter men, but the actual data says that it's more like fifty fifty for most women.

Meaning, you could just as accurately say that 50% of women don't prefer men who are taller than them. And seventy percent of college age women say that they have no problem at all with a man who's shorter than than they are. Now research does show that taller men will generally marry sooner than shorter men, but they're also more likely to get divorced. Shorter men are more likely to be the breadwinners of their families than taller men, and they're more likely to have younger wives. So there shouldn't be a real concern here because women in reality are attracted to a man's character.

And a man who has built his confidence and his self esteem without relying on superficial things like his size will inevitably exude more strength and inner power. And if any additional evidence was needed that women are not exclusively attracted to men who display stereotypical traits of masculinity, you need look no further than the k pop phenomenon. A lot of red pillars and macho men are incredibly irritated by that. Like, why did I go to the gym then if I could have attracted women just staying as the skinny little guy I used to be? It's trite but true.

What makes a man a man is what he is inside. The depth of his character, the strength of his will, his competence, his confidence, his courage, his sense of responsibility, and his work ethic. Not anything so arbitrary as his size or his gait when he walks or how big his muscles are. Some of the most personally powerful men that I ever met were little guys, and they commanded the respect and earned the admiration of everyone who knew them. I've also known plenty of little guys who were enormously dangerous men.

You can't have had much life experience if you dismiss a man based on his size. So don't let the ignorant locker room theories of Red Pillars and Tomasiin get to you. You're gonna be fine.