Leave her turbulence alone

Assalamu alaikum. I remember a long time ago, there was a commercial. I don't know if it was perfume or what, but it had, like, a montage of men saying different things about women and, like, what kind of women they liked or what they liked in a woman. And there was one guy who said, I like complicated women. And that triggered me because my immediate reaction was, there aren't any.

Women are not complicated. Women self complicate. They're complicated in their own minds. But to anyone outside of her brain, they're not complicated at all. We like to say that men are simple, but women are very, very simple.

The problem is what makes them appear complicated is that they have a lot of turbulence in their brains. They have a lot of turbulence in their minds, in their psyche. And if you get caught up trying to untangle that turbulence, it will seem very complicated. And very, very quickly, things are gonna go off the rails. So a man, a qawam, if you're married, you have just have to understand.

She's gonna have turbulence. That turbulence is just always gonna be there, and it doesn't matter. Don't get involved in that turbulence. Do what you're supposed to do as a. You know?

Take care of what needs to be taken care of. Be supportive. Be tolerant. Be patient, but don't try to delve into the turbulence in her brain and in her psyche because this is just something that women have to deal with all the time. And men are not like that.

That makes us look like we're simpler. But the reality is that women are simple. Their lives are simple, but how they feel about it is different. But none of that is of any real consequence. It only becomes something of consequence if you get involved into it and react to it because nothing really matters.

Nothing is really important until men pay attention to it. So if she's got a bunch of turbulence going on in her head and you it's fine. That's normal. But if you get involved into it and try and figure it out, then it becomes important and things can get blown out of proportion, And a tiny issue can become a huge fight. It can become a huge argument.

It can become a huge misunderstanding, and things can fall apart. So just let the turbulence be. Know that it is more or less not dangerous to her or anyone else. And, anyway, five minutes from now, she's gonna get distracted. Again, selective, strategic, compassionate, dismissiveness.