Disciplining a wife

Practically speaking, there is strategic power in being kind, being soft, being gentle, being tolerant, being lenient, and being undemanding with your wife. So if you are anticipating, as you should, as a the possibility of the necessity of disciplining your wife and correcting a behavior that needs correcting, then there is a strategic power in establishing a general, style of interaction with her that is kind and soft and gentle and, lenient, tolerant, patient, easygoing, and undemanding. Because if or when the need arises to correct the behavior or to discipline her in some way, you have created a lifestyle for her based on your good nature, which then she can find herself denied. If you are generally undemanding, then when you make a demand, when you say this thing has to change, this thing is not okay, or this is something that I need you to do, It it's not lost in the fog of the endless orders that you give her because you don't give her many orders. It's not lost in the haze of the millions of things that you expect from her on a daily basis because you don't expect much.

You're easygoing. So when something becomes an issue that is serious to you, it will be taken seriously because it's something that doesn't happen frequently. And if it is not complied with, whatever the the case may be, if it is not complied with, then you have the power to deny her that kindness, lenience, easygoing nature, softness, and all of the other manners of interaction that make her life comfortable and happy. Meaning, if you're good at being a husband and father, then you make everyone in your house happy and comfortable. And so then if you are not happy and comfortable, no one can be happy and comfortable because everyone's happiness and comfort relies upon you.

You should be the one who makes her life comfortable so that when needs be, you can withdraw that comfort, and that is unbearable. That's unbearable for a woman. And this is also important if you're gonna if you're talking about disciplining a woman. They can handle punishment. They can handle hostility.

They can handle anger. They can handle aggression. But the one thing that they cannot handle is discomfort. When they have become accustomed to comfort, they cannot handle discomfort. Anything and everything that you provide is, for lack of a better word, leverage.

Anything and everything that you provide. And you provide many, many, many more things than just material provision. So any of those things can be withdrawn as a form of disciplining. But the last thing, and this is really the most important thing, if you're going to discipline your wife over something or you're going to make a demand of some kind or you're going to try to hold her accountable for some behavior that is you deem wrong behavior. Make sure it's actually wrong behavior.

Make sure that the demand is correct religiously and reasonably. Make sure that you're not being driven by your nefs, but that you're being driven by the best interests of your family. In other words, that her behavior is disruptive to the tranquility, the stability, or the sanctity of your home. Otherwise, the overwhelming majority of things that women say and do are inconsequential to anyone but herself. Make sure that it's important, and make sure that you have already established an atmosphere in the home that's completely under your control.

Make sure that you are the the climate control in the house so that your mood, as goes the husband, so goes the home. If the husband is in a good and happy and comfortable mood, then the whole house is fine. And if the husband is not, then the whole house is uncomfortable. So be the source of her comfort so that you can be the source of her discomfort if if necessary as a disciplinary strategy.