Don't make people defend ideas you want them to let go of - Mahdi Tidjani - Gabriel Al Romani debate

Assalamu alaikum. I watched the debate between Mahdi Tijani and Gabriel Romani. It was supposed to be about the red pill theory and whether or not it is it is or is not compatible with Islam And about Tajani's position regarding the inadvisability of marrying divorcees, I don't think that it was a very substantive debate, and I would be disappointed if I had had high hopes, or high expectations. I would be disappointed with it if I had had high expectations. But one thing that made me think about, because I really believe that, brother Mandy is too smart for what he's advocating.

It's just, you know, you can get sometimes enamored with a philosophy or an idea. It provides you with a system for understanding and interpreting people's behavior and actions. Anyway, one of the things that I got out of the debate was if you wanna get someone to change their mind about an idea, never put them in a position of defending that idea. That forces them to double down, and then they become known for holding that opinion, and it makes it much more difficult for them to change their opinion and also save face. Nebbi Ibrahim when he was just very young, his manner of debate with of his time, including his father, he was asking them questions.

He simply asked them questions that were intended to make them think about the ludicrousness of their belief. If you really want good for someone and you really want them to change their mind and to, relinquish, faulty ideas and you respect their intelligence, get them to use that intelligence to question their own opinions. You don't wanna force them into a corner, and then they have staked out that corner as their territory, and they end up being stuck in that corner. And we don't want people to be stuck in the corner of bad ideas.