Desire is your weakness, not her power

If you see women primarily or exclusively as sexual objects, then you've just got sex on the brain. You're overly fixated on it and this is a weakness in you. You need to find a way to control your lust and desire so that it doesn't warp your approach to women because that weakness of yours projects a power onto women that they don't have, and it prevents you from understanding or seeing what is really their core fundamental vulnerability and weakness. Now I'm like anybody else. I scroll TikTok.

I see what you see, and it's full of young girls competing for male attention as sexual objects. Maybe you get outraged when you see that. Women are out of control and they're luring men to sin, shameless and immoral. What I see are silly, lost, unguided, desperate girls trying sadly to find some sense of self worth and value based on what they think you want because they have no idea how to define themselves except within the context of men's attention. The Tomasiin, frankly, perceive women as very powerful, but that's only because of their own powerful desire.

Look, what's portrayed as women's empowerment is actually nothing more than throwing vulnerable women out into situations for which they are not equipped or prepared to deal with. Kawama empowers women. Having father, brother, or husband empowers women because women cannot engage positively, constructively, healthily on their own with men. They will always be compromised, they will always be coerced, will they always be led or misled, controlled, exploited, or used to one degree or another. You know, red pillows like to ask women, what do you bring to the table besides your sexual attractiveness?

But you all have insisted that their sexual attractiveness is the only thing they can bring to the table. It's the only thing that you're interested in. You're being manipulative. In fact, it's manipulative to even frame it as a negotiation. You only negotiate when there is a parity in the power dynamic.

Whatever power you perceive women to have is not their power, it's your weakness, which you then try to camouflage by demanding that they bring qualities to the table that you're not actually even interested in because all you really care about is their sexual attractiveness. But you wanna undermine the value of that sexual attractiveness so that they can't use that as a power in the negotiation. It's just a hideous game you're playing, turning normal, natural male female relations into a power struggle. What she brings to the table, no matter who she is, what she brings to the table is her profound but inarticulate need, and what you bring to the table is your ability and willingness to take responsibility for her. That's it.

Can you or can you not take on the responsibility of Kawama for this girl? And what that responsibility will entail will vary from woman to woman. Some need less guidance than others. Some are more troublesome than others. Some are more aware of what they need than others.

But there is never parity. If there is any degree of parity, then frankly, you are too weak to even be sitting at that table to begin with.