Everyone's problems are big to them

You know, women tend to worry and feel anxiety about things that seem trivial and frivolous to men often. It's hard for us to understand sometimes that they even mean it, that they're not just creating drama for no reason and being drama queens about things that aren't important, things that don't matter. But we have to understand that what a person finds important and what worries them is all dependent on the context of their life. A child may be in tears because their toy breaks. Okay.

A toy breaking is not important in the overall context of life. But in the context of the child's life, it's very important. A woman may feel overwhelmed by, you know, housework, having to sweep, having to put laundry in the washing machine, whatever, cooking, and she'll actually legit get stressed about these things. Unimportant, but in the context of her life, these are sources of real stress for her. Hard for us to understand that.

Now for us, for men, generally, we worry about dunya, you know, our job, paying the bills, all of these things. And in a hierarchy of importance, the things that we're worrying about are more important. So their contexts make their problems seem important to them. Our context makes their problems seem unimportant to us. But think about it this way.

If we had any sense at all as human beings, the only thing that we would ever worry about is being saved from the hellfire and being admitted into Jannah. In the overall context of reality, that's all that really matters. But we ask Allah for everything. We ask Allah for every mundane stupid little problem that we have in our life. Don't we?

You know how ridiculous that must seem to Allah compared to hell and Jannah as concerns, but Allah doesn't look down on us for that. He tells us to ask him about everything. He knows we worry. He's concerned about our worry, and he said ask me about every little thing. If we had any sense, the only thing we'd worry about is Jahannam and Jannah.

But this is the context in which we live, the dunya. Within that context, a problem may be big. Outside of that context, it may look very small. So in the context of dunya and akhirah, every problem in the dunya is tiny. In the context of working and struggling in the dunya, the context of the home seems very small.

In the context of the home, you worry about the matters of keeping the house together and so on, and the context of the child seems very small, their toys, you know. But for each person within their context, their problems are real to them. And I think it might help to keep it in perspective when we think about the fact that even the things that we worry about most of the time aren't actually important compared to the things that really matter.