Perception is not reality; character is.

The phrase perception is reality has misguided an enormous number of people into thinking that objective reality doesn't matter. But we are a reality based ummah. Just because we don't judge people according to their intentions and we take their actions at face value doesn't mean we subscribe to this concept. This is more of an idea that the would subscribe to, not the believers. I've noticed that a great deal of red pill content seems to be devoted to helping men appear high value, how to talk, how to dress, how to behave in a way that gives the impression that they are dominant, sought after, important men so that women will want them and men will respect them.

Well, all of this is anathema to Islamic character. We don't do swag. When Amr ibn al Khattab was Emir al Mu'minin with control over vast lands from Arabia to Egypt to Syria to Persia all the way to Turkmenistan, his appearance and demeanor was indistinguishable from an average Muslim, from anyone on the street. Whenever Muslim envoys were sent to the rulers of the day, whether it's the king of Byzantium or Persia or Egypt, they would sit on the floor and berate the rulers for their pomp and pretense of grandeur. When Mughira bin Shubba was sent to address Rostom, the commander of the Persian army, he questioned, why do you act as if you were masters over people?

And told him, you can't continue doing this for any kingdom based on these attitudes cannot last. Whenever a Muslim envoy would meet a world leader of the day, he would make no effort to impress him. No posturing, no pretense, but by his own simplicity and frankness, he would completely deflate that ruler's imagined supremacy. We came to free people from the worship of other people, they'd say. And they would remind those rulers that they themselves came from a single drop of semen just like everybody else.

Islam demolishes the dominance hierarchy theory because reality matters. A man has high value only if he has high value in the sight of Allah, and no one can know that. So no man is in a position to boast or posture or falsely elevate his status above anyone else. So again, red pill theory is teaching men techniques for attracting worthless women. Women who will be attracted to superficial signals, which to anyone with sense, do nothing but announce that you are a self absorbed, materialistic, insecure narcissist without a trace of iman in your character.

Said that the most beneficial thing in this world full of beneficial things is a virtuous wife. Think about that. Think about all of the comforts and conveniences that there are in this world, all the beneficial things, and all of those don't equal the benefit of a virtuous wife. Well, red pill theory, if you follow their advice, it will deprive you of that benefit, not secure it for you. So be true to Allah.

Be true to yourself. Don't worry about how you come across. Don't worry about appearing high value. Just be real. Be good.

And that will be sufficient for finding a wife with similar qualities.