Is Mercy "Beta"?

I keep trying to think of ways to articulate this that will be clear. Allah said, He did not say or He said men and women. He didn't say some men, he didn't say some women, and he didn't say that men should be, that they should strive to be, that they should be placed in a position where they can be, and he didn't say they should be acknowledged to be. He said they are. This is a statement about the nature of our reality as human beings.

It is a statement about the inescapable nature of our existence. It's crucial to understand this. Men's is not conditional, does not require recognition, and does not change according to circumstances. It is a fact of nature. This is why, in my opinion, despite the fact that there is so much insistence about the obligation of women to obey their husbands, I have yet to see any substantial proof that women have been ordered to be obedient.

Rather, they have been strongly incentivized and strongly encouraged to obey their husbands. Why? Because the reality is that women are always and unavoidably subject to men whether they realize it or not, whether they acknowledge it or not, or whether they accept it or not. Whatever they do, it is always and only by the allowance of men because men have the capability and the power to prevent them if they chose to do so. Yes.

Men could be monsters and there would be nothing women could do about it. The opposite is not the case. And except for the fact that Allah placed love and mercy in our hearts towards women, compassion, concern, caring, and kindness, What if the only feelings that men had in their hearts towards women were carnal lust and desire and nothing else? No conscience or respect of any kind. You can imagine what a horrific world this would be for women.

So when women are disobedient, when women are rebellious, when they're argumentative or difficult, for all but the most mentally deranged of men, our mercy prevails over our wrath. Yes. That is an intentional reference to the Hadith Qudsi because the power of Allah over his creation is an inescapable fact of the reality of our existence. It is not conditional, does not require recognition, and does not change according to circumstance. It is a fact of the nature of reality.

Allah doesn't have less power over the, less power over atheists, less power over degenerate sinners and disobedient Muslims. Allah has the absolute power to compel us to obey. But does he, or does he incentivize us to obey and give us time throughout our lives in this dunya to comply, showing us signs here and there throughout our lives usually through the consequences of our misbehavior, how much we need him, how dependent we are upon him, how he is the source of order, stability, and happiness in our life. Even as we deny, defy, and transgress, His mercy prevails over his wrath. Whatever Allah does to punish us in this life, it is to reprimand us and to correct our behavior through usually gradually escalating negative outcomes from our transgressions.

He wants us to choose obedience. He wants us to choose gratitude. He wants us to choose submission. That's what makes us righteous and what gives our righteousness value. Well, men have the power to compel women to obey, and we've been given rights in Islam to impose gradually escalating degrees of reprimand and punishment to correct misbehavior.

But it is the righteous women who are who obey, who choose to submit, who choose to be grateful, who choose to recognize our authority as men. And if they do this, then simply fulfilling the bare minimum of Islam combined with obedience to their husbands will allow them to enter Jannah from any of the eight gates that they choose. Men need to remember this, to deal with our wives the way that we need Allah to deal with us and the way he does deal with us. Even though he has the power to force us, to compel us, to obey, has the power to punish us instantly for each and every sin, transgression, act of disobedience, error, or mistake. If a man is being patient, tolerant, forbearing with his wife, you'll say he's a simp.

He's being beta. But this is precisely the way that Allah is dealing with you every single moment of your life. And where would your life be? And what would your life be if that's not how Allah was dealing with you?