The Virgin Debate

I wanted to say something on this issue of of, marrying women who have sexual histories. First of all, I've seen some kind of sly attempts in this discussion to make an equivalence between women who have sexual experience through marriage with women who have sexual experience through zina. These two things can't be equated. There's complete there's complete difference between a woman who has halal sexual experience and a woman who was zazania. And there's nothing wrong whatsoever with refusing to marry a woman who has a past of zina, and it doesn't matter if that was prior to Islam or not.

Look. Someone was committing zina before Islam, when they embrace Islam, all of their sins are forgiven. It doesn't mean they didn't do them, and it can still bother you that that that those things happen. That is not a sin on your part. That's not an injustice on your part.

Accepted the Islam of Wahshi, but he didn't wanna look at him. He didn't want him around him. He couldn't bear to have him in his company because he had killed Hamza. There's no sin on Rasulullah to say, I cannot be around this man because of what he did. He's been forgiven for that.

Doesn't mean I have to be around him. Marrying you is not a proof of forgiveness. The level of entitlement is staggering. To think that, well, I've been forgiven, so therefore marry me, that doesn't calculate. And also we need to point something out here that you can come to Islam and all of your past sins are forgiven, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you have accepted that they were wrong and that you've made for those things.

You've been forgiven. Had you not been forgiven, would you have made repentance and sought forgiveness for those things? Because that matters. A man who is considering marriage should be cognizant of potential issues that can come up between him and a divorcee versus him and a virgin. It's perfectly reasonable to advise brothers or sisters to marry virgins.