Be hard on yourself

Never try to cushion the blow. Never try to soften the impact. Never try to deny the severity of a mistake, a lapse, or a failure. Don't pass the buck. Don't evade responsibility.

Don't let your pride or ego get in the way of starkly confronting your shortcomings. Be hard on yourself. I know everyone tells you not to be, but you have to be. You must be if you want to improve. Nabi Yunus didn't use a filter in his self assessment when he said, Nothing is more detrimental to the development of strength than avoiding the consequences of weakness.

So take the hit, the full impact, absorb it, and get stronger.