Why I Don't Support the Men's Rights Movement

I don't support men's rights advocates or the establishment of men's groups and whatnot. You know how there is this whole view now that traditional views of masculinity actually make men suffer? That we're not allowed to share our feelings, we're not allowed to cry, we keep all of our emotions bottled up, we suffer in silence. So men are now being encouraged to share their stories, share their pain, and so on. Stop bottling it up, we're told.

Well, I don't agree with any of that. This isn't how men are built. We do not benefit from sympathy. Compassion is like krypton ite to us. This whole trend is an imposition upon men of what works for women.

You all like to talk about your feelings, share your pain, get sympathy, have a good cry. All of that helps you cope and move on with your life, and that's great for you. But this is the opposite of what works for men. Sympathy just makes us weaker and less able to cope. Sharing our feelings resolves nothing for us and just ends up making us feel trivialized because what we feel, we feel deeply, and it doesn't go away by talking about it.

It just becomes another random topic of conversation and that feels like short shrift. Women act like if you express your emotions, that's the same as resolving them. But we bottle up our feelings, we bottle up our emotions because for us that's where they belong. Verbalizing them is not the same thing as working through them. We work through them internally and carry on with our lives in the meantime.

We only allow them to disrupt us on the inside because external peace and tranquility are too important for us in the rest of our life. And as for sympathizing with our pain or our difficulties that we're dealing with, talking about how hard life is doesn't make it any easier. It is hard and it's going to stay hard. And we just have to get used to it and deal with it and carry on. We cannot afford to indulge in self pity.

People who are dependent upon and who provide strength and security for those around them can't afford to complain. You carry your own water, and it's no one else's problem. That's the attitude that we need to maintain in order to be able to function properly. It's absurd to take the advice of women on something like this. They are not men.

They can't do what we do or be what we are. So the way we are seems unhealthy to them, but it's the only way we can function that's healthy for us. So if you're a woman and you wanna help the men in your life with whatever they may be going through, just let them know that they are appreciated. Know that they are grappling with things, with feelings, with pain, with doubt, responsibilities, and just appreciate them.