Transcend Grievance Ideologies

Men and women have always fussed with each other. It's like I've said before, the entire human race is like an old married couple. We love each other, men and women, but we also get on each other's nerves. Now I think the problem is that at certain point, some people came up with what we can call grievance ideologies. Most relevant here would be feminism and red pill theory.

These are grievance ideologies, and as such, they always assume the worst about the opposite sex, and they turn everything into a power struggle. This just amplifies the normal fussing and fighting that goes on between men and women into epic archetypal battles of principle when they're actually just the normal bickering and blustering that has always gone on. So for instance, because of feminism, anytime a woman is disagreeable or noncompliant with her husband, say, he asks her to make some coffee and she doesn't do it. It becomes some kind of symbolic conflict of values. Values.

In his mind, she's denying the principle of his authority and the hierarchical structure of the family. In her mind, he's being some dictatorial and unempathetic because he doesn't care why she didn't make the coffee. Maybe she's tired. Maybe she's doing other things. Whatever.

She wants it to be negotiated, but he rejects negotiation because to him the principle of his authority as head of the household is being challenged when it's actually just about some stupid coffee. So he needs her to affirm the principle of patriarchal authority in the family in Islam. He needs her to affirm that. She resists doing that precisely because his insistence on it makes her nervous that he's gonna use that kind of acknowledgment as a rationale and a justification for oppressing her and he's gonna turn into some kind of domestic Hitler. These terrible ideologies did this to us.

We have to learn how to transcend these ridiculous immature exaggerations of mundane completely banal little moments of friction in a marriage because you will never have, you can never have, and frankly you don't deserve a marriage in which there is no friction. These ideologies are telling men and women to not tolerate each other's humanness. She's argumentative? Dumper. He's not sensitive enough?

Divorce him. How are you ever supposed to mature as a man, mature as a woman if you just walk away from anyone who isn't basically some sort of robot designed to cater to your every whim. If that's your expectation or your demand in a spouse, then you are mentally underage for marriage. And if you stay devoted to feminist or red pill ideology, you're never gonna grow up, and you will die alone.